Self-love: Don’t dwell on what you cannot change
The key to life’s happiness
Life is unpredictable, and it’s certainly not fair.
But why should it be? If everything we wanted or desired to happen took place, there would be no spice to life.
There are a lot of people who have yet to come to a point in their lives where they are going to be happy with themselves.
To an extent, that’s understandable. On the other hand, there should be a low tolerance for people who go around feeling sorry for themselves. If there is one truth in this world, it’s that your life was made for you. People can’t change the life they’ve been given.
Instead of dealing with this fact, many people dwell on situations they can’t control. People like this choose to let their negative situation get the best of them.
Perhaps you were born short, tall, fat, skinny, dumb or smart. Regardless, that can’t be all you focus on. This way of thinking can only depress a person. Dwelling on life’s problems is the least courageous way out of a difficult situation. But, it seems to be the easiest way to handle life’s problems.
If you look around, I’m sure you know a lot of people who are “dwellers.” It’s important to embrace life and quit this practice. Those who embrace their lives are the ones who have come to terms with the cards they have been dealt. These people take life for what it is.
Instead of being sad about living in the ghetto, try to embrace it. If you don’t have the body of a supermodel, the strength of a bodybuilder, or the height of a basketball player, everything will be okay.
Those who embrace their life aren’t weak like those who dwell on negatives. They are stuck somewhere in-between. The best way to handle difficult situations is embracing your life and improving upon it.
It’s okay to be fat, but it’s important to love yourself for who you are and improve on life by eating healthy and being in shape. Challenging conventional standards of beauty and improving your life for yourself and others is the key to success. Those who choose to improve their situations are the strongest people. This strength doesn’t come about by using illegal outlets as a means of improvement. Real improvement can only take place from genuinely working hard and being determined.
So, the question remains, which choice have you made? Have you decided to dwell on your situation, or circumstance? Have you decided to embrace who you are? Or have you decided to improve your situation?
The answer to that question just might be the key to life’s happiness.
This article was originally printed in the FAMUAN, Florida A & M’s student-run newspaper where Derrick Mcmahon is a senior history education student.
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