As an argument between Gina and her boyfriend escalated in their New Jersey home more than 20 years ago, he started to become violent. Gina's friend Shawna, who'd come over to check on her, picked up the phone to call the police. Soon, Gina's boyfriend redirected his fury. It wasn't until he turned his attention from Gina and began beating Shawna with the phone that it clicked. "It was such an eye opener to what he had been doing to me," Gina said. Shawna's reaction was not to cower, as Gina had done in the past when her boyfriend flew off the handle. She fended off the violent man, and Gina helped her. "I saw then that he wasn't this…